Yes, that's exactly the problem. And in at least some cases it is strategic and intentional. Anti-trans hate groups know that most people will respond with und

Yes, that's exactly the problem. And in at least some cases it is strategic and intentional. Anti-trans hate groups know that most people will respond with understanding rather than hate when hearing answers to certain types of questions. They know that, like the racists and homophobes before them, they are on the losing side of a rational and polite discourse. The only hope for trans hate groups is to shut down that rational and polite discourse. One strategy for doing so is to identify questions that people have and then prime trans people/trans allies to respond emotionally to those questions. The goal of the "just asking questions" routine is (1) make trans people uncomfortable but also (2) make sure that people who actually do have questions always feel attacked by the trans community instead of empathetic with the trans community. It's a strategy. By shutting down possibilities for education we play directly into their hand. I wrote more in a sibling comment: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29267480 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29267480