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> Be kind. Would "I think you might be misunderstanding ego" have been a better way to phrase it? > are traits to be admired Oh I agree, I am not making a c

> Be kind. Would "I think you might be misunderstanding ego" have been a better way to phrase it? > are traits to be admired Oh I agree, I am not making a claim about what HN-types revere, I was addressing how two very distinct psychological terms are often misused. Like, for example, if I kept calling C an interpreted language; or claimed there's no difference between TCP or UDP; that's the same as equating assertiveness and aggression that I quite frequently see here.

ChrisMarshallNY 5y ago
> Would "I think you might be misunderstanding ego" have been a better way to phrase it? No. "The way that I understand the word 'ego,' is thus..." If you really can't live without applying a slap, may I suggest: "I feel that this word is often misused. The way that I understand the word is ... If it is applied in the way that I understand it, then ..." I'm a fairly decent chap. I have some experience and knowledge, relevant to the OP. I'm not at all interested in being a bloviatasaurus, and, if presented with corrections, or alternative points of view, I'm always more than willing to concede the point. I'm not really interested in being a foil to someone's strawman.
- dnissley 5y ago
  I think this is almost a perfect example of someone thinking they're personally being assertive and someone else thinking that person is being an asshole. On the one hand, yeah, the original comment could have used softer phrasing, could equivocate more, could signal curiosity better. On the other hand, if you know something just say what it is you think you know. On the responder's end, yeah, if you think someone is being excessively aggressive with their language, call it out. On the other hand, apply the principle of charity and try to hear what the other person is saying.

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> Be kind. Would "I think you might be misunderstanding ego" have been a better way to phrase it? > are traits to be admired Oh I agree, I am not making a c

by SavantIdiot 5y ago

ChrisMarshallNY 5y ago
> Would "I think you might be misunderstanding ego" have been a better way to phrase it? No. "The way that I understand the word 'ego,' is thus..." If you really can't live without applying a slap, may I suggest: "I feel that this word is often misused. The way that I understand the word is ... If it is applied in the way that I understand it, then ..." I'm a fairly decent chap. I have some experience and knowledge, relevant to the OP. I'm not at all interested in being a bloviatasaurus, and, if presented with corrections, or alternative points of view, I'm always more than willing to concede the point. I'm not really interested in being a foil to someone's strawman.
- dnissley 5y ago
  I think this is almost a perfect example of someone thinking they're personally being assertive and someone else thinking that person is being an asshole. On the one hand, yeah, the original comment could have used softer phrasing, could equivocate more, could signal curiosity better. On the other hand, if you know something just say what it is you think you know. On the responder's end, yeah, if you think someone is being excessively aggressive with their language, call it out. On the other hand, apply the principle of charity and try to hear what the other person is saying.