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> The other reason this works so well is that our children are not our friends. We don't have a peer relationship with them and we don't owe them explanations a
by pawelmurias 5y ago
> The other reason this works so well is that our children are not our friends. We don't have a peer relationship with them and we don't owe them explanations as to why our family is different from other families or blah blah blah.
You are aware that if you don't become friends with them as they grow up it's very likely you will very likely have a very limited relationship unless you continue to send them money?
- bad_username 5y agoI would agree that parents are not friends. It sounds harsh on the surface, but it just denotes that parenthood is a very separate category of relationship. You can't be a responsible parent if you treat your kids exactly like e.g. your adult friends or your neighbor's kids.
- bad_username 5y agoAlthough I definitely disagree with the "we owe no explanations" policy.
- pawelmurias 5y agoIt obvious that they are a different relationship than your adult friends. Enforcing stupid rules without discussion or explanations is a pretty hostile action. Nobody wants you to treat a 3 year old as child, but a teenage would be pretty upset if some fuckwit turned of the internet when they are want to look some stuff on MDN or commit code to github. This also teaches your kids to be abused as adults. Excessive obedience is not a good quality. If you just want to boss them around when they grow up don't get upset if send you to a cheap-ass nursing home.