It's not just you! It's not a coincindence that the most solid friendships are formed in high school/college where there is a "forced" continous presence . An

It's not just you! It's not a coincindence that the most solid friendships are formed in high school/college where there is a "forced" continous presence . And also you have the added bonus of some authority to rally against and thus bond together (think a teacher, some egomaniac professor, the principal...) In adulthood all those factors go out of the window + everybody is extremely concerned about being cool and not being needy. I don't think this can be solved except moving to countries which are socially warm such as Brazil, Mexico, Nigeria etc. With warmth also comes strong sentiments and envy, but it's better than the social flatline observed domestically. The countries that I mentioned are exceptional in terms of social warmth because of cultural (perhaps climatic?) factors. As a rule of thumb the poorer a country is and the shortest the expected lifespan, the more social interaction happens between its citizens. In a sense , rational thought and order are the mortal enemies of social interaction. Going back to the the topic of school/college....America is the Ivy league college where everybody is keeping the score of their social status and nobody talks to anybody else. Places in the 3rd world are like party schools, nobody gives a damn about tomorrow, they are all there to get shitfaced and enjoy the moment, being in the moment and mingle around, get involved in orgies and fights...sometimes orgies turning into fights and viceversa.