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The most enlightening bit I read online on this subject was that of a serial cheater who held no remorse for doing so. Her attitude was basically something like
by 3pt14159 5y ago
The most enlightening bit I read online on this subject was that of a serial cheater who held no remorse for doing so. Her attitude was basically something like:
> Hey, I love him and if he doesn't know it doesn't hurt him and if I ask for permission not only will it hurt him, but he won't give it to me anyway. So I'll just lie to him.
Which kinda blew my mind. I understand cheating as a I-messed-up thing or as a my-partner-literally-and-believably-threatened-suicide-if-I-left-them thing but an ongoing, decades long deception? Man. That's wild.
- toomuchtodo 5y ago> Hey, I love him and if he doesn't know it doesn't hurt him and if I ask for permission not only will it hurt him, but he won't give it to me anyway. So I'll just lie to him. I used to knew someone like this. "Love and sex are different, separate things." It taught me to be more guarded about who I associate with.
- icu 5y agoThat sounds like a personality disorder which is why you should thoroughly vet a long term partner and screen for personality disorders early on in a relationship. I hope the husband finds out and recovers from the betrayal.