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Introverts handle social events perfectly well. Being an introvert means you find social situations incredibly tiring and need to spend time alone to recover; i
by onion2k 5y ago
Introverts handle social events perfectly well. Being an introvert means you find social situations incredibly tiring and need to spend time alone to recover; it doesn't mean you don't engage with them when you're there. The book "Quiet" by Susan Cains is a very good explanation of how introverts, extroverts and ambiverts work on a psychological basis.
If you find social situations difficult then you're probably just anti-social. I don't mean that as an insult, simply as a statement of fact. Some people don't enjoy socializing, especially in a 'work' context. If that's you then either don't do it, or learn how to do it better. It's a skill like any other. Join groups that are designed to improve your social skills. Believe it or not, there are courses you can buy about getting better at networking.
But remember that introverts can enjoy a party, and socializing, as much as anyone else. They just need time on their own to recover afterwards. Just as extroverts need a party to recover from time on their own.
- going_ham 5y agoYes, I can enjoy these events, therefore I am looking for way to benefit from them (interactions, discussions etc), so that it can last even after the events ends. I can not follow up from there onwards. That's when my introvert nature kicks in. Meanwhile if I work on something I am interested, it lasts for a long time in the memory.
- marginalia_nu 5y agoHonestly that sounds more like social anxiety than introversion. If so, that's treatable. Like it's not a matter of taking a pill and it goes away, it takes some work and time, but if it is an obstacle for leading a happy life, you definitely should consider talking to a therapist sooner rather than later.
- phekunde 5y ago> Honestly that sounds more like social anxiety than introversion. For intoverts, social anxiety stems from the fact that they do not fit into the very nature of "social events". Otherwise introverts are very good in other aspects e.g. put them in a "slow-paced social gathering" and they will be perfectly fine, infact they will enjoy it. But social events are fast-pased, this is where it is a mismatch for the intoverts.
- phekunde 5y ago> introvert means you find social situations incredibly tiring > If you find social situations difficult then you're probably just anti-social. No, that is not entirely true. The way I differentiate between intoverts and extroverts is this "introverts think a lot before talking" where as extrovers "talk and then may be think". You mentioned that intoverts find social events tiring is because of this, they always have to play catch-up with non-introverts during discussions. Hence introverts try to be in(and flourish in) an environment that promotes deep thinking. Social events are anything but deep thinking venues.