Almost been through a very very similar situation twice. What I learnt from the first time (a year into my first job out of college) was to have written commit

Almost been through a very very similar situation twice. What I learnt from the first time (a year into my first job out of college) was to have written commitments - and put things in writing. I had a project manager who played very dumb and on a day I was out of the office went upto my manager complaining about work not having been done. My manager set up an "urgent meeting" even though she knew I was on a day off. Almost as a way to stage it up. This was when my senior colleagues had educated me in the values of putting status/commitments/questions in email so there is a trail of your effort!