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> And that aside, do you not like going to a restaurant because you knew you could as soon as you earned the money to buy the meal? Maybe it's not the same as e

• vmception 5y ago
  And I’ve heard the thrill of the chase perspective before. I personally never experience that, and I just like to have - not like opting for sex workers because its easy (and I don’t like how illegal and decriminalized environments lack consumer protection, and I’m not near regulated ones), but in reference to the general population, I would prefer to skip all that. It is fairly predictable for me to be out with other male associates and they want to go hunt/do laps around the venue to approach women in volume and that has never interested me. I create circumstances that women I like would be in. I queue those circumstances up and eventually thats the most common circumstance for me. I find the entire dynamic of men chasing intimacy, and women withholding intimacy pending further compliance, to be unnecessary. It is unnecessarily elevating sex at the expense of rapport, when it can all be intertwined. Regarding transactional relationships, I view that as an option. I like knowing the performers and courtesans, distinct from a random video on pornhub. I like seeing their creativity, schtick, their causes. Its entertainment. Its not different to me than a twitch streamer, or burlesque show, or whatever. I’m not “bored because I didnt chase” or devaluing the person because they offered and again thats just not a thrill I can relate to.