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When I fucked up in middle/high school, it wasn't because I was lazy. It was because I had no idea how to deal with stress/anxiety/deadlines. I had teachers who
by btheshoe 5y ago
When I fucked up in middle/high school, it wasn't because I was lazy. It was because I had no idea how to deal with stress/anxiety/deadlines. I had teachers who luckily were empathetic and I grew up eventually. I was lucky - I have fantastic parents in a loving, stable marriage and my mental health on the whole was not extraordinarily bad.
Many kids are not that lucky. In my experience, the kids (my peers) who were doing drastically badly weren't lazy. They had something else going on - a bad home life, or serious mental health issues.
- gjs278 5y agosounds like you were a bad student. none of those excuses will work at work.
- lmm 5y agoDealing with stress/anxiety/deadlines is a vital life skill. At some point people have to face failures and consequences (even if the failure was "not their fault"!) and learn to handle them; if they don't do it in school they'll be doing it for the first time in college, or in the workplace, or with governmental requirements.
- lostdog 5y agoThe point still stands. School doesn't teach you to handle stress and anxiety. It just creates some for you.
- denimnerd42 5y agodealing with stress and anxiety while your brain is still developing doesn't always go as you would want and the public school system surely isn't going to help them cope if they do react poorly.
- kqr 5y agoSure, but are you really arguing that getting bad grades is a good way to learn how to deal with anxiety? Do you have evidence for that statement?
- CryptoPunk 5y agoThe grading holds you accountable, and places pressure to do better.
- kqr 5y agoA person who is stressed or anxious is already feeling pressure. What makes you think they need more?
- CryptoPunk 5y agoWell you learn to deal with it by being subjected to it. If you treat people like they're fragile, and don't apply this kind of pressure, they will grow up as fragile.
- kqr 5y agoThis is fascinating and new to me. What's your evidence?
- lmm 5y agoIn practically every sphere of human activity people are unskilled and get better through practice. Why would handling stress/anxiety be any different?
- kqr 5y agoThat one is easy! Stress/anxiety is a condition that makes all kinds of learning significantly more difficult. A small amount of urgency can be helpful, but ideally it should be intrinsic (i.e. someone screaming at you or giving you letter grades is nowhere near as motivating as feeling that you can almost do it) and it's very easy to overshoot.
- btheshoe 5y agoIt comes with age.