> New Yorkers may seem assertive/rude/cold at first but you will soon love the fact you always know where you stand. Unfortunately, I have observed that New Yo

> New Yorkers may seem assertive/rude/cold at first but you will soon love the fact you always know where you stand. Unfortunately, I have observed that New Yorkers are now performatively complaining and being rude. They believe they have to be a little negative, so they find something wrong with the current situation, no matter how tenuous. They're supposed to be grouchy so they act like your presence is a burden even if they're actually really happy you're there. There's nothing wrong with it, it's just a different style. But it's no more or less phoney than anywhere else. Source: lived for 20 years in New York, and 20 years in CA.