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Yeah I hate this idea that real people are rude and shit. No, you're just an asshole. I'm not fake because I make pleasant small talk with people while interact

Yeah I hate this idea that real people are rude and shit. No, you're just an asshole. I'm not fake because I make pleasant small talk with people while interacting with them. It's called being a decent person. Assholes aren't more real than nice people. They're just assholes.

logifail 5y ago
> Assholes aren't more real than nice people. They're just assholes Q: What if all people are assholes, but some are at least honest about it?
- JasonCannon 5y ago
  Then that would be a shitty world to live in. Good thing it isn't true.
bobthechef 5y ago
Absolutely true, being genuine doesn't mean being an asshole. Lots of assholes are not genuine, or they're genuinely assholes. However... > It's called being a decent person. Engaging in small talk can be inconsiderate, as the post upstairs demonstrates. Maybe the guy doesn't have time for the ceremony and the chitchat. A lack of small talk doesn't mean you're automatically rude or an asshole. Small talkers can be huge assholes, too, by doing things like wasting everybody's time with BS and worthless blather. Moderation in anger, reasonable patience, and appropriate friendliness are good, subject to judgement within the given circumstances, but the idea that being "nice" is some kind of virtue and a defining feature of decent human beings is preposterous. Many evils in the world are fostered by nice people terrified of speaking the truth and causing displeasure.
mbrodersen 5y ago
I absolutely hate it when people want to engage in small talk without even checking with me first if I am interested. Then I have to be fake nice and pretend to care about whatever crap they say while inside desperately trying to find a way to disengage without being seen as rude. So I simply started saying “Sorry don’t mean to be rude but I have a lot of things to think about right now so please give me a bit of space to do that” or something similar. Unfortunately passive aggressive “nice” people then get offended and think I am rude when they are the ones invading my private space uninvited.
- JasonCannon 5y ago
  Checking with someone if they want to engage in small talk is weird and not at all how it should go. You do the right thing by telling someone you'd rather not make small talk right now. If they respond badly that's on them.

logifail 5y ago

> Assholes aren't more real than nice people. They're just assholes Q: What if all people are assholes, but some are at least honest about it?

JasonCannon 5y ago
Then that would be a shitty world to live in. Good thing it isn't true.

bobthechef 5y ago

Absolutely true, being genuine doesn't mean being an asshole. Lots of assholes are not genuine, or they're genuinely assholes. However... > It's called being a decent person. Engaging in small talk can be inconsiderate, as the post upstairs demonstrates. Maybe the guy doesn't have time for the ceremony and the chitchat. A lack of small talk doesn't mean you're automatically rude or an asshole. Small talkers can be huge assholes, too, by doing things like wasting everybody's time with BS and worthless blather. Moderation in anger, reasonable patience, and appropriate friendliness are good, subject to judgement within the given circumstances, but the idea that being "nice" is some kind of virtue and a defining feature of decent human beings is preposterous. Many evils in the world are fostered by nice people terrified of speaking the truth and causing displeasure.

mbrodersen 5y ago

I absolutely hate it when people want to engage in small talk without even checking with me first if I am interested. Then I have to be fake nice and pretend to care about whatever crap they say while inside desperately trying to find a way to disengage without being seen as rude. So I simply started saying “Sorry don’t mean to be rude but I have a lot of things to think about right now so please give me a bit of space to do that” or something similar. Unfortunately passive aggressive “nice” people then get offended and think I am rude when they are the ones invading my private space uninvited.

JasonCannon 5y ago
Checking with someone if they want to engage in small talk is weird and not at all how it should go. You do the right thing by telling someone you'd rather not make small talk right now. If they respond badly that's on them.