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Or you can kindly hear people when they tell you they’re in pain, listen to what they need and what they’re struggling with, and go from there. If your definiti
by eyelidlessness 5y ago
Or you can kindly hear people when they tell you they’re in pain, listen to what they need and what they’re struggling with, and go from there. If your definition of talking to someone is making them feel shittier by being “positive”, without regard for whether it makes them feel shittier, yeah you’re already not socially interacting with them. You’re just one-sided dumping your frame of mind and interpretation on them.
- slackfan 5y agoAnd in this case, they're one-sided dumping their frame of mind on me, (which can be downright abusive) and anything I say either way, supportive or non-supportive can be held against me, pending interpretation.
- eyelidlessness 5y agoSo it sounds like your intent is to be dismissive with positivity to avoid abuse by an undue burden of negativity. I mean, I’ve experienced that kind of abuse so I don’t blame you. But I still the response that way, I think there are better ways to protect yourself, and I think a lot of people who are in pain and feel unheard deserve better than emptiness of any kind regardless of the positivity expressed.
- klyrs 5y agoI was invited to an icebreaker-type meeting where the topic was "how have the lockdowns improved your life." Doesn't that just make you feel warm and fuzzy?