I'm sorry that empathy seems to be an elusive concept for you. I hope that no one ever reaches out to you feeling bad and are greeted with a tone deaf bastardiz

I'm sorry that empathy seems to be an elusive concept for you. I hope that no one ever reaches out to you feeling bad and are greeted with a tone deaf bastardization of Monty Python People don't want advice, judgement or cheering up, they want to feel that they matter; that their voice has been heard. Acknowledge that they may be in pain and they are justified in feeling the way that they do. They are not wrong or broken, they've had an understandable response to their circumstances. Don't wallow in it but meet them where they are and seek only to understand and listen. If they let you in you can ask what you can do to help. If not, go whistle somewhere else.