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We're always just one declared war away from changing that. Your life's circumstances can change at a moment's notice. You could fall and have a devastating b

We're always just one declared war away from changing that. Your life's circumstances can change at a moment's notice. You could fall and have a devastating brain injury. Being comfortable with your circumstances can mostly only come from within.

bagels 5y ago
Bad things can happen, therefore, we should not discourage bad things from happening?
- busterarm 5y ago
  Having a windowless bedroom isn't some terrible tragedy that happens to you. It's a minor inconvenience and bit of adversity that is temporary. Probably about 20% of all of the people that I know who moved to New York to pursue their dreams lived for at least a year in an illegal windowless-bedroom shared apartment (they exist because there is demand for cheap housing). Young people need to be challenged with small bits of adversity from time to time to overcome instead of being coddled and incapable of dealing with real, adult problems by themselves. I say this as someone who had to drop out of college and become homeless before really getting on my feet in my mid-20s. So many of my peers bitch and moan and live NEET lifestyles as they're pushing 40 because their parents and society promised them the world after college and they never learned that nothing is achieved without hard work.
  - dymk 5y ago
    This is a good example of pointless suffering and self flagellation
    - busterarm 5y ago
      "suffering". We're talking about UCSB students here. It's a school where wealthy, well-connected parents and administrators collude to skirt the rules to get their children admitted. It's a school where wealthy Chinese nationals send their children, because admissions is less competitive than the Chinese university admissions process and offers a better chance for their children. It's ranked 5th out of all public universities. None of those kids are suffering and I would suggest you reevaluate what suffering is.

bagels 5y ago

Bad things can happen, therefore, we should not discourage bad things from happening?

busterarm 5y ago
Having a windowless bedroom isn't some terrible tragedy that happens to you. It's a minor inconvenience and bit of adversity that is temporary. Probably about 20% of all of the people that I know who moved to New York to pursue their dreams lived for at least a year in an illegal windowless-bedroom shared apartment (they exist because there is demand for cheap housing). Young people need to be challenged with small bits of adversity from time to time to overcome instead of being coddled and incapable of dealing with real, adult problems by themselves. I say this as someone who had to drop out of college and become homeless before really getting on my feet in my mid-20s. So many of my peers bitch and moan and live NEET lifestyles as they're pushing 40 because their parents and society promised them the world after college and they never learned that nothing is achieved without hard work.
- dymk 5y ago
  This is a good example of pointless suffering and self flagellation
  - busterarm 5y ago
    "suffering". We're talking about UCSB students here. It's a school where wealthy, well-connected parents and administrators collude to skirt the rules to get their children admitted. It's a school where wealthy Chinese nationals send their children, because admissions is less competitive than the Chinese university admissions process and offers a better chance for their children. It's ranked 5th out of all public universities. None of those kids are suffering and I would suggest you reevaluate what suffering is.