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As an adult, I had to have a frenulectomy performed, as it would tear and bleed during sex semi-commonly. The most annoying thing was both the doctor I saw for

by girvo 5y ago

As an adult, I had to have a frenulectomy performed, as it would tear and bleed during sex semi-commonly. The most annoying thing was both the doctor I saw for the referral, and the clinic itself tried to insist I get a circumcision instead. I still don’t know why. It healed perfectly and aside from having to adjust some habits (the foreskin no longer rolls up on its own), it’s identical in function to before with no loss of feeling. I felt weird at the surgery, surrounded by parents taking their babies and toddlers to be circumcised. Weird day.

forgotmypw17 5y ago
It was also strongly suggested to me by a doctor inappropriately. After a small cut on the glans had healed up, it would still sometimes get irritated. This doctor, a woman and a GP, told me I HAD to get circumcized! I did not return to see that doctor again... IIRC it fixed itself with a little bit of help from an antibacterial ointment.
billpg 5y ago
You were an adult, making a choice for your own body.
- girvo 5y ago
  Indeed I was, which is why I found the surgery full of babies and children decidedly sad. I don’t think I implied otherwise? Even then, it was still confusing why I was being pushed toward circumcision when a frenulectomy is a far less invasive, easily tolerated procedure with decades of practice, but is apparently not that common as a solution for similar medical problems as mine.
  - billpg 5y ago
    Indeed. The original article was about the circumcision of a child, so I wanted to underline the particular point that yours was as an adult.
    - girvo 5y ago
      Fair enough, though it was literally the first three words of my comment too!
throwaway81121 5y ago
I had a frenuloplasty for the same reason, but it wasn't as successful as yours, and I was circumcised a couple of years later. If a doctor is unsure how successful a frenuloplasty or frenulectomy will be, and knows that you might need a circumcision anyway, then they might suggest the latter option. One procedure is better than two. Getting circumcised allowed me to have sex again, but there's no way in hell I'd agree to it otherwise, knowing what the consequences for me have been.

by girvo 5y ago

forgotmypw17 5y ago

It was also strongly suggested to me by a doctor inappropriately. After a small cut on the glans had healed up, it would still sometimes get irritated. This doctor, a woman and a GP, told me I HAD to get circumcized! I did not return to see that doctor again... IIRC it fixed itself with a little bit of help from an antibacterial ointment.

billpg 5y ago

You were an adult, making a choice for your own body.

girvo 5y ago
Indeed I was, which is why I found the surgery full of babies and children decidedly sad. I don’t think I implied otherwise? Even then, it was still confusing why I was being pushed toward circumcision when a frenulectomy is a far less invasive, easily tolerated procedure with decades of practice, but is apparently not that common as a solution for similar medical problems as mine.
- billpg 5y ago
  Indeed. The original article was about the circumcision of a child, so I wanted to underline the particular point that yours was as an adult.
  - girvo 5y ago
    Fair enough, though it was literally the first three words of my comment too!

throwaway81121 5y ago

I had a frenuloplasty for the same reason, but it wasn't as successful as yours, and I was circumcised a couple of years later. If a doctor is unsure how successful a frenuloplasty or frenulectomy will be, and knows that you might need a circumcision anyway, then they might suggest the latter option. One procedure is better than two. Getting circumcised allowed me to have sex again, but there's no way in hell I'd agree to it otherwise, knowing what the consequences for me have been.