>> This kind of works okay when the other person is agreeing to being coached This is a great point and totally agree. It's a little frustrating to have to spe

>> This kind of works okay when the other person is agreeing to being coached This is a great point and totally agree. It's a little frustrating to have to spell out the entire context of the relationship in this case but people are for some reason eager to assume a context that puts the conversation in the worst possible light rather than seeing "oh yeah ok sometimes there's room for that kind of thing" and obviously you wield the tool with judgement. One thing I really do appreciate is that some workplaces seem more geared for coaching and feedback than others. I haven't worked at Amazon for example but I understand that one of the reasons it's considered a hard place to work is that it's "not OK" to not want to improve and grow, so you give implicit consent to be coached by working there (obviously there's still room for empathy and handing it well) whereas other organizations (Google) seem to prioritize in-the-moment happiness so there's potential to be missing out on vital feedback for years - I actually asked about this a lot in my interviews there.