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> Here’s what I’m seeing, a coworker makes a statement out of frustration and your decision is to “correct” them. I get the "make sure they are OK" angle - tot
by xyzelement 5y ago
> Here’s what I’m seeing, a coworker makes a statement out of frustration and your decision is to “correct” them.
I get the "make sure they are OK" angle - totally the go-to if someone is seriously distraught or vulnerable.
This was a manager annoyed from perceiving themselves drowning in a sea of incompetence. Helping him go from that to "this is something I can help my team with" was empowering to him as is obvious in the actual example.
You really can't imagine a situation where simply helping someone navigate their own understanding is helpful?
- kayodelycaon 5y agoThank you for checking out my website. I’m quite proud of it. :) While I am an advocate for mental health now, I’ve been doing everything I talked about for the last decade. Maybe two if you include what I picked up from my parents doing marriage counseling. > You really can't imagine a situation where simply helping someone navigate their own understanding is helpful? Here’s my way to address that: “Yeah. That last deployment was rough. I’m sick and tired of this happening too. What we are doing isn’t effective. I’ve been thinking about this and I have a few ideas. When would be a good time to discuss? I’m free now or we could talk after lunch.” Now I can have a conversation with someone willing to look at solutions instead of venting.