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This is my greatest fear and has lead my life into a completely different direction. From a promising young CS graduate working in tech in US to someone who’s h

by gmanis 5y ago

This is my greatest fear and has lead my life into a completely different direction. From a promising young CS graduate working in tech in US to someone who’s had to leave many opportunities to family members unable to travel with me, it is very debilitating. I have tried exposure therapy, learnt a lot about flying, used sim games, and no amount of statistics has helped so far. Maybe the fear stems from underlying unresolved issues about life and the fact that I haven’t done well relative to peers despite being promising early on.

vbg 5y ago
What exactly does this mean? “ being promising early on”
- gmanis 5y ago
  It means I started off in a top software company and was on track to a relatively decent middle class life in US.
mpalczewski 5y ago
I tried a bunch of that too. I even had jumped out of an airplane, and I took flying lessons and still panic attack every time I flew. Though flying lessons did help, skydiving was awesome but terrifying and didn’t help at all. What finally helped me, was Allen Carr easy way to enjoy flying and the happiness trap. Not sure which book did it but I’m flying now with what I would call a normal level of anxiety most of the time.
- gmanis 5y ago
  Thank you for sharing your experience. I would definitely take a look at Allen Carr.
- telesilla 5y ago
  Allen Car helped me stop smoking and flying lessons helped me stop being afraid of flying! I'd be curious to hear if there was a single moment for you in your lessons you remember that helped you. For me, I was in a non-powered plane and had to land. The incredible resistance of the aircraft was the moment of enlightenment for me.
  - mpalczewski 5y ago
    Yes the non powered landing was the most profound part of flying lessons for me.
nzmsv 5y ago
Try reading "Panic Free" by Tom Bunn. It approaches the fear of flying from a psychological perspective, has concrete cookbook style suggestions, and definitely appealed to the engineer in me.
- gmanis 5y ago
  Thank you.

by gmanis 5y ago

vbg 5y ago

What exactly does this mean? “ being promising early on”

gmanis 5y ago
It means I started off in a top software company and was on track to a relatively decent middle class life in US.

mpalczewski 5y ago

I tried a bunch of that too. I even had jumped out of an airplane, and I took flying lessons and still panic attack every time I flew. Though flying lessons did help, skydiving was awesome but terrifying and didn’t help at all. What finally helped me, was Allen Carr easy way to enjoy flying and the happiness trap. Not sure which book did it but I’m flying now with what I would call a normal level of anxiety most of the time.

gmanis 5y ago
Thank you for sharing your experience. I would definitely take a look at Allen Carr.
telesilla 5y ago
Allen Car helped me stop smoking and flying lessons helped me stop being afraid of flying! I'd be curious to hear if there was a single moment for you in your lessons you remember that helped you. For me, I was in a non-powered plane and had to land. The incredible resistance of the aircraft was the moment of enlightenment for me.
- mpalczewski 5y ago
  Yes the non powered landing was the most profound part of flying lessons for me.

nzmsv 5y ago

Try reading "Panic Free" by Tom Bunn. It approaches the fear of flying from a psychological perspective, has concrete cookbook style suggestions, and definitely appealed to the engineer in me.

gmanis 5y ago
Thank you.