Ignoring for a moment the statistical hand-waving and terrifying 1-in-10 probability of being labeled suicidal—and the corresponding restrictions of freedoms—I

Ignoring for a moment the statistical hand-waving and terrifying 1-in-10 probability of being labeled suicidal—and the corresponding restrictions of freedoms—I was a bit taken aback by the high predictive power of yelling and arguments at home. My parents never—literally never—raised their voices or argued with one another. I knew other families were different from television and books, and when I married into a family that yells liberally I took it in stride as just another mode of communication. Now that I have a kid, I'm wondering—for those of you with a spouse with a temper—what are some strategies for de-escalating arguments and yelling?