My father has just been diagnosed with stomach cancer, so I am going through a similar journey. I am not sure which country you are in, but there might be gove

My father has just been diagnosed with stomach cancer, so I am going through a similar journey. I am not sure which country you are in, but there might be government programs that partially subsidies a personal carer for your mother. I believe UK has it. It might be worth looking into these programs to hire someone (could be a family member) and offload some tasks from you.