This is a good thing to recognize, however I think in this case it's more along the lines of Munger having a novel vision for a specific dorm layout, and saying

This is a good thing to recognize, however I think in this case it's more along the lines of Munger having a novel vision for a specific dorm layout, and saying to the university "Hi. I got this idea for a dorm, I will foot the bill if you are up for doing it my way". This is hardly the same as "giving grudgingly"... In fact it feels wrong to cast the matter in this light. At worst it is more akin to Maimonides' concept of Utilitarian Friendship, and the current furor perhaps serving as the “When the benefit vanishes, love vanishes” moment.