You're saying that the negative results of failing a test should come from the school and not the parent. I don't see why this is true. A school will grade a s

You're saying that the negative results of failing a test should come from the school and not the parent. I don't see why this is true. A school will grade a student down, but often kids will simply just not care about that unless there's impetus to do so from their peer group or people they rely on as a role models (e.g. parents). Also, when talking about kids... I think it's useful to clarify what age group you think a particular standard applies to. Kindergarteners need more parent care and management than secondary schoolers. It's more okay for a 6 year old to fail a test, than a 17 year old prepping for university. The stakes are different, and the mental abilities of the child are different. What is reasonable for one is not necessarily reasonable for another.