This is such a great post, and puts a finer point to thoughts I've only brushed upon. >witnessing mutual discomfort in the presence of a common hardship. This

This is such a great post, and puts a finer point to thoughts I've only brushed upon. >witnessing mutual discomfort in the presence of a common hardship. This reminds me of Sebastian Junger's book Tribe where he talks about how authentic camaraderie is formed in the presence of hardship. I think there's a reason why bonds formed during military service or true existential threat are held in such high esteem. Maybe it would help the OP to deliberately put themselves outside of their comfort zone in arenas where failure is a distinct possibility but you must work with other people to avoid it.