Yes, in addition to my private XMPP server, I have been running a Matrix server for one of my clients for about the same amount of time. Element desktop is...

Yes, in addition to my private XMPP server, I have been running a Matrix server for one of my clients for about the same amount of time. Element desktop is... slow and terrible in comparison with all of its confusing options, and regularly kicks just a single person off the server for no apparent reason when their session becomes corrupted. I really want to use fractal but it doesn't do E2EE. Synapse was a horrible resource hog, but conduit actually seems pretty good. Still prefer ejabberd.