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My friends are my number one priority in my life, and I let them know it. As for how I met them, it’s kind of all over the place, ranging from my fraternity, my
by alecst 5y ago
My friends are my number one priority in my life, and I let them know it. As for how I met them, it’s kind of all over the place, ranging from my fraternity, my university, my meditation group, rock climbing, WWOOFing, language exchange, etc. But I think we’re friends because we really add to each other’s lives. Whenever anyone seemed interesting to me, whether it was because of the music they made, their opinions, their talents, their sense of humor, I always made an effort to keep in touch. And then time does the rest of the work.
Looking around you there’s almost certainly someone you can form a lasting relationship with. Don’t be afraid to talk to people and get the ball rolling. “Wanna go for a walk? There’s a really nice view around the corner that I can show you.”
I’m wishing you the best man. Reach out to me privately if you want, I’m happy to talk more and I have plenty of time these days.
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- lotsofpulp 5y ago> But I think we’re friends because we really add to each other’s lives. Being able to offer something is a necessity. Whether it be making someone feel good, or having useful skills or knowledge, or humor, or even connections. But no one wants to be around someone that complains all the time, or is a Debbie downer, or otherwise does not make you feel good. At least not in the “making friends” phase.
- Dig1t 5y ago>Don't be afraid to talk to people This is so true, I like to think I've always been good at making solid, lasting friendships in my life, I have quite a few. One thing that helped me that I used to do, and I didn't realize that this was possibly awkward for the recipient, was to just call them and start talking about something. I realize in hindsight that it was probably weird for them to get a random phone call from me and to have the point of the conversation to just talk about random stuff that I found interesting, but I'm also convinced that it is a big reason that I'm still such good friends with several people.
- alecst 5y agoHaha yea I do the exact same thing. Never considered it might be awkward, just assumed they were down to talk.
- CodeWriter23 5y agoYou can always be up front and start the conversation with "Hey, I just wanted to talk about random shit with you, do you have some time for that?"
- anon9001 5y agoThis is the first time I've heard of WWOOFing. Neat. I don't care much about organic farming, but it seems like an interesting apprenticeship/activism model.
- alecst 5y agoTo be honest I'm not that into farming either, I just like being outside, doing meaningful projects, making friends, having lots of free time, traveling. The farming part is just incidental.