"Everything is a mess" is a very common condition, but also very common is unrealistic expectations. The feeling you have of burnout, of course, should be take

"Everything is a mess" is a very common condition, but also very common is unrealistic expectations. The feeling you have of burnout, of course, should be taken seriously but the other things you describe sound not unusual to me. Yeah, the real world (at least in my experience) is never like it is in the "seminal books". How will you know that the next place you go to isn't the same or messed up in an equally profound but different way? Certainly part of this is the remote-first stuff. MHO, but it is simply not possible to gain trust from teammates without regular in-person interaction. Remotes will always be outsiders, and outsiders have an enormous challenge when it comes being change-agents.