In my opinion such negativity is to some extent caused by working with computers. Just like some lawyers tend to concentrate on looking for crimes everywhere, p

In my opinion such negativity is to some extent caused by working with computers. Just like some lawyers tend to concentrate on looking for crimes everywhere, psychologists see childhood traumas and character traits, and linguists spelling and grammar mistakes, people working with computers, especially programming, look for why certain things will not work and are not worth even trying. Think about a typical way of solving a problem with a computer. Something doesn't work and you have a dozen of ideas why it doesn't work. The course of action is to inspect each idea, reject the ones that will not get you there immediately, and look at the acceptable ones with suspicion. Until one proves itself to be the right approach. The problem is that this trickles down to everyday life. You get into this pattern of looking at things as problems to be solved. And if you know something the other person doesn't know - you want to correct them, because correcting them means that the task is completed and that you get some credit for the solution. So shooting down ideas and looking for a negative side of everything is the natural course of action. After all, when solving a concrete problem, rejecting a clearly wrong idea is just as good for moving closer towards the goal as coming up with a new idea that might be viable. For me, personally, what helped is listening to people who speak very positively. One good example I found is a channel on youtube named Lux Pixul [1]. Adam (the guy that runs the channel) frequently does videos about motivation, procrastination, inspiration, and similar topics. But his approach is always very positive and warm. I reflect on how I feel when listening to people speaking that way, and it makes me want to imitate it myself, so that I can transfer the same feeling to others. For me - that helps. [1]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJlJC6yjLpw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJlJC6yjLpw