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Thinking negative thoughts and noticing negative aspects of things/situations is a habit you can break. My counter has been to keep a reminder and a google for
by jrvarela56 5y ago
Thinking negative thoughts and noticing negative aspects of things/situations is a habit you can break.
My counter has been to keep a reminder and a google form where I jot down 3 things I am grateful for. Just repeating this over and over made a switch flip: I catch myself noticing positive aspects of what I would otherwise consider 'objectively' negative things.
Bonus: I check this log every now and then and tell people I'm grateful for X or Y they did for me or if consistent enough I tell them I appreciate they are a source of X in my life. It's true, I'm not sweet talking them - I literally wrote down when it happened. This is the best material for birthday messages too - spreads the love.
- specialist 5y agoA lot of good advice and great insights in this convo. Adding my "Yes and" here, because your tip most closely matches my own. > Thinking negative thoughts ... is a habit you can break. ### How you talk changes how you think. ### At some point, exhausted by my own negativity, completely out of ideas, I decided to just fake being happy. I labeled everything "phenomenal". Like a catch phrase. Followed by effusive positivity. Yes, it started out as mostly sarcastic. Imagine my surprise when I woke up one day, said "I feel phenomenol!" and actually meant it. My transition took about 3 years. It was so slow and subtle, I didn't realize it was actually happening. I've since some stuff which validates my own experience.