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Even with a framework like this, it’s hard to get past the visceral fear if failure. It’s only with practicing failure do we get accustomed to it. Tony Hsieh f

Even with a framework like this, it’s hard to get past the visceral fear if failure. It’s only with practicing failure do we get accustomed to it. Tony Hsieh from Zappos famously does one thing a day that scares him. At a certain point, potential failure is as scary as just trying something new.

fortran77 5y ago
And it worked really well for Tony: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/26/technology/tony-hsieh-death.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/26/technology/tony-hsieh-dea...
- bloodyplonker22 5y ago
  You're one of those people that never takes risks and never really does anything and just has a plain jane life, aren't you. But, obviously, you're quick to laugh at others' misfortunes for trying to do things.
  - fortran77 5y ago
    Excuse me? Have I laughed at Tony?
nonbirithm 5y ago
And seeking out or even opening yourself up to a chance of failure gives certain people a risk of falling into a spiral of depression. I am not even sure that going for desirable yet challenging goals is even an option for these people if too much failure will destroy their confidence about life in general, whether or not that is a consequence that logically follows. If you're weighing an option that opens you up to a higher risk of failure than other options, then depending on what type of person you are, you may have to evaluate whether you have enough of a support network or other "cushion" to absorb the mental blow of failure first. Failure is something that can be gotten used to, but before it is, you have no choice but to get past the damage to your mental health the failure causes, and some people are not capable of managing that on their own. This is why I have to sometimes frame my decisions as: "Because I will fail considerably more often if I choose this path, I'm giving myself a considerable risk of becoming a miserable wreck incapable of doing the things I'm capable of now, or worse. So for the sake of preserving my mental stability, I will have to do something else."

fortran77 5y ago

And it worked really well for Tony: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/26/technology/tony-hsieh-death.html https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/26/technology/tony-hsieh-dea...

bloodyplonker22 5y ago
You're one of those people that never takes risks and never really does anything and just has a plain jane life, aren't you. But, obviously, you're quick to laugh at others' misfortunes for trying to do things.
- fortran77 5y ago
  Excuse me? Have I laughed at Tony?

nonbirithm 5y ago

And seeking out or even opening yourself up to a chance of failure gives certain people a risk of falling into a spiral of depression. I am not even sure that going for desirable yet challenging goals is even an option for these people if too much failure will destroy their confidence about life in general, whether or not that is a consequence that logically follows. If you're weighing an option that opens you up to a higher risk of failure than other options, then depending on what type of person you are, you may have to evaluate whether you have enough of a support network or other "cushion" to absorb the mental blow of failure first. Failure is something that can be gotten used to, but before it is, you have no choice but to get past the damage to your mental health the failure causes, and some people are not capable of managing that on their own. This is why I have to sometimes frame my decisions as: "Because I will fail considerably more often if I choose this path, I'm giving myself a considerable risk of becoming a miserable wreck incapable of doing the things I'm capable of now, or worse. So for the sake of preserving my mental stability, I will have to do something else."