I really appreciate your comment, and value honestly, but this: > Recently met an older (early 30s guy) and it was seriously cool having a sexual experience th

I really appreciate your comment, and value honestly, but this: > Recently met an older (early 30s guy) and it was seriously cool having a sexual experience that didn’t end with “don’t bother I’m just not going to finish no matter how long we go.” Reading that was like reading that your worst nightmare is actually true. nervous laugh As a guy in their 30s, on multiple occasions I've comforted myself with "self, it doesn't matter to them if we finish, they're probably so appreciative that we're more focused on them than ourselves. you're doing great, self." And your comment is just NOPE and slashes my self esteem to shreds! And this too!: > by e.g. not smoking so much weed... CUTS DOWN MY MENTAL SUPPORT FRAMEWORK LIKE A SCYTHE. :) <3 I needed that solid slap across the face, I was in danger of becoming too comfortable with my sexuality, now I have the ammo to fuel my insecurity and shame, and push it back down where it belongs. A million thanks.