Maybe, but FWIW... yes I'm in charge of networking setup at home, oil changes and such and all the tools are at least ostensibly "mine", but she's VERY DEFINITE

Maybe, but FWIW... yes I'm in charge of networking setup at home, oil changes and such and all the tools are at least ostensibly "mine", but she's VERY DEFINITELY in charge of plumbing and house infra :-D. [not to mention, she can easily pay somebody to take care of house infra; whereas I cannot afford the full-time mentorship services of a socially aware and emotionally intelligent coach :P ]