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Did the price of marriage paperwork go up or something? How can a marriage be "less obtainable"?
by jlawson 5y ago
Did the price of marriage paperwork go up or something?
How can a marriage be "less obtainable"?
- wanderingmind 5y agoThere is a difference between wedding and marriage. A wedding paperwork is not too expensive, but a marriage has truly become unaffordable.
- micromacrofoot 5y agoI have no idea what this means. Are you talking about the societal standards of what marriage is? something else? There were 4 people at my wedding. It was only marginally more expensive than the paperwork.
- barry-cotter 5y agoYou know the big fancy wedding for 50-300 people in a hotel? That's expensive. I forget the sociological terminology but getting married has gone from a "We're getting started" to a "We have arrived" statement and the wedding is meant to show that, which is expensive.
- micromacrofoot 5y agoWell sure, but that's just one example of how corporate interests tend to push tradition into being as expensive as possible (holidays face a similar fate). They're creating social pressure to solidify their revenue. A wedding can be whatever you want. It's not "unobtainable" unless you're treating it like a class-based measuring stick.
- lowkey_ 5y agoMarriage licenses are like $100 — are you confusing wedding and marriage in this? (i.e. it should be that marriage paperwork is not too expensive, but a wedding is unaffordable)
- foxbarrington 5y agoWhat is expensive about marriage? I’m trying to think of reasons. Taxes? It can be advantageous to stay single, but I wouldn’t say this is that big. Kids? Another mouth to feed and educate is wildly expensive, but I doubt this is what we’re talking about. Rent/buying a home? Cheaper to share a space I’d think. I think I’m missing something.
- sparrish 5y agoHow has marriage become unaffordable? In what way? I'm really asking. Seems to me two people with two incomes living in a 1 bedroom apartment is cheaper than one. Nearly everything is cheaper when you're married: Insurance, taxes, meals, utilities. What's less expensive as a single?
- mensetmanusman 5y agoWell, consider, about 50 years ago almost every child was raised by married parents, today about half are. Having so many people with no lived experience means lower cultural forces behind asking them to participate in an expensive party, even though marriage is so good for raising children (which used to be the purpose of marriage).
- emidln 5y agoWhy is an expensive party important? You can certainly get married at a Church or at a courthouse for pretty cheap and a party isn't required, but even if it is, you can throw a decent party without thousands of dollars spent. I've been to many of them in small towns across the Midwest.
- mensetmanusman 5y agoIf you are already cohabitating, marriage is an expense you can indefinitely procrastinate. Especially if you see what others are doing on social media, your mental model of the expense continues to inflate and the pressure to procrastinate grows.
- whimsicalism 5y agoI don't understand what you are trying to say. Lived experience? Explain.
- mensetmanusman 5y agoIf most couples you know are just cohabitating, the cultural forces to have a public ceremony decrease.