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Is this because you observe yourself on screen? I feel very uneasy looking at myself when talking, so I've figured out how to remove my tile and it's suddenly

by awild 5y ago

Is this because you observe yourself on screen? I feel very uneasy looking at myself when talking, so I've figured out how to remove my tile and it's suddenly like a normal conversation. There are way less social codes you have to follow when wfh and people tend to not bother as much with enforcing them.

mark_l_watson 5y ago
This is good advice. I usually move my video tile to a lower corner where it is easy to ignore.
sp332 5y ago
I constantly think about how I'm coming across, whether my hand gestures are visible in frame, if I look like I'm frowning too much, if I'm nodding big enough to be seen, if I seem like I'm not paying attention when I look away from the screen, etc etc
- awild 5y ago
  But is that because you have the visual feedback of yourself? As I say, I can relate and that's why I disable my own tile. I'm being a bit encroaching here, but I'm guessing you'd have to do as much and probably more self regulation in in-person meetings. Nobody cares where your hands are, probably no one even looks at them because you're one of many tiles. Where you're looking is not interesting because nobody knows where your camera sits related to your face. I constantly look out the window while talking. Genuinely, I've had to force eye contact on bad days in in-person meetings and everyone knew, it felt as pathetic as looking at my own face and checking if my gesturing and face ist appropriate
  - sp332 5y ago
    No, to be clear, I would have more anxiety because I wouldn't know how I'm coming across. I guess my question is, if I'm one of many tiles and no one cares where I'm looking, what's the point of having the camera on?
    - awild 5y ago
      In small to medium sized groups, body and facial language helps to understand how a person feels about something. Most people like to imagine everything is completely rational but most things at work have a human component. If I feel like someone's unhappy with the work they're allocated I will ask them about it. It's like watching a movie without the image.
  - kashug 5y ago
    This feature is currently not supported my microsoft teams. And I guess a lot of corporations use teams for meetings.

by awild 5y ago

mark_l_watson 5y ago

This is good advice. I usually move my video tile to a lower corner where it is easy to ignore.

sp332 5y ago

I constantly think about how I'm coming across, whether my hand gestures are visible in frame, if I look like I'm frowning too much, if I'm nodding big enough to be seen, if I seem like I'm not paying attention when I look away from the screen, etc etc

awild 5y ago
But is that because you have the visual feedback of yourself? As I say, I can relate and that's why I disable my own tile. I'm being a bit encroaching here, but I'm guessing you'd have to do as much and probably more self regulation in in-person meetings. Nobody cares where your hands are, probably no one even looks at them because you're one of many tiles. Where you're looking is not interesting because nobody knows where your camera sits related to your face. I constantly look out the window while talking. Genuinely, I've had to force eye contact on bad days in in-person meetings and everyone knew, it felt as pathetic as looking at my own face and checking if my gesturing and face ist appropriate
- sp332 5y ago
  No, to be clear, I would have more anxiety because I wouldn't know how I'm coming across. I guess my question is, if I'm one of many tiles and no one cares where I'm looking, what's the point of having the camera on?
  - awild 5y ago
    In small to medium sized groups, body and facial language helps to understand how a person feels about something. Most people like to imagine everything is completely rational but most things at work have a human component. If I feel like someone's unhappy with the work they're allocated I will ask them about it. It's like watching a movie without the image.
- kashug 5y ago
  This feature is currently not supported my microsoft teams. And I guess a lot of corporations use teams for meetings.