I am in very much the same situation. Something thing I've found that really helps me is just reading about shy behavior. I find that identifying an issue is th

I am in very much the same situation. Something thing I've found that really helps me is just reading about shy behavior. I find that identifying an issue is the first step to solving, and reading descriptions of shy behavior often help me better and more precisely identify what to fix. One book I found to be quite helpful in this regard was "The Introvert Advantage" by Marti Laney.