I strongly believe that the best path to changing yourself is experience (and screwing up), and that no book can help you be social, at least not at the speed y

I strongly believe that the best path to changing yourself is experience (and screwing up), and that no book can help you be social, at least not at the speed you're looking for. Get out there and try! You know that sinking feeling you get whenever you do something awkward? That's a feedback mechanism: don't do things that cause that. Eventually you'll find what works for you and feel comfortable introducing yourself to groups. Even then you'll occasionally have an awkward moment: that's ok! We're all nerds in our own ways, and we've all been there. Just keep moving past it and don't lose your stride (the exact same advice one would give to a dancer or musician for when they mess up). Hackers and Founders is a great event for this: it's a really great bunch of people. Hunt down Jonathan, the organizer[1] when you get there and explain that you're new to the area and would love to chat with people interested in X, Y, or Z. He'll get you started :). It's much easier to connect with people who share similar interests. Even if you suck at it initially, practice will make you better. Holding a drink that you can take a sip of is also a great way to avoid awkwardness. As lsb said, cranberry juice (or even water/soda) works just as well as booze. [1] On the right: http://photos4.meetupstatic.com/photos/event/2/6/5/4/600_16869812.jpeg http://photos4.meetupstatic.com/photos/event/2/6/5/4/600_168...