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That frustrated me for a long while, how hard it is to find a mentor even if you want to. Many of us are this "forced" to reinvent the wheel and stumble in th
by jdsalaro 5y ago
That frustrated me for a long while, how hard it is to find a mentor even if you want to. Many of us are this "forced" to reinvent the wheel and stumble in the dark trying to learn as we go. I've gotten used to it and it even had its perks as it allows you to build a more robust sense of self, but I do reckon that it's not always ideal and it used to be a source of considerable emotional drag.
- gkop 5y agoI'm sorry you had that experience. The silver lining is now you have an opportunity to pay it forward, and take on a mentee! It can be super rewarding. And sometimes you can earn advisor shares. Also you say "even if you want to": Do you agree with the article that business leaders seem not to want coaches? I honestly haven't seen that.
- DoreenMichele 5y agoI think if there's a silver lining it's that lessons that hurt get remembered. You make sure you never do that again if it was really painful. Sometimes being told what you need to do fails to bring home how important it is and why it's really bad if you mishandle it.
- gkop 5y agoTotally. And also, you own ALL your success, and ALL your failure.
- tayo42 5y agoIve never really had a mentor that was clearly defined (and i almost never see that)but Ive definitely had lots of periods in my career where people Ive respected gave me actionable advice and direction when I asked for it. Lots of people are interested in helping others.
- telesilla 5y agoUse your own smarts, read books about business building and talk to older people. But don't take any mentor at their word. I got burnt when younger by trusting somone whose advice almost destroyed everything I built. I came out of it stronger but I wish I never had to.