If you are introverted (not saying you are), or just having difficulty connecting to people the way to go is to do some sort of shared goal directed activity th

If you are introverted (not saying you are), or just having difficulty connecting to people the way to go is to do some sort of shared goal directed activity that you can talk about with said other people. Join a club, or take up an activity - learn to do something that can serve as a topic of conversation. Most places where people do something like social like rowing or dancing have well developed programs for converting beginners into participating members of the community - start with beginner lessons in whatever it is. Don't be afraid to try a number of things before you find something that "fits". You don't have to be perfect at something in order to enjoy doing it with other people (who may also be imperfect at it).