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As adults I think it's pretty immature to recognize a fault and then not even attempt to change one's behavior in a positive manner.

araneae 15y ago
Not if it's a fault that can't be changed, or at least not easily. I'm short, too, and I've learned to accept that, just as I've learned to accept the fact that some of my friends have more people posting "happy birthday" on their wall than I do.
- ulisesroche 15y ago
  But, I don't think it's the same thing. Changing your behavior is very possible, and being short is not a fault.
- sukuriant 15y ago
  Plenty of your comments on here have a polite air to them. Looks like you can be cordial with people very frequently.
- jff 15y ago
  Can't be changed? Are you sure you aren't making up excuses for yourself? If you didn't believe people skills were innate and unlearnable, would you have to face the fact that you may be simply lazy in that regard, or that you're clinging to an unfriendly personality because you feel it makes you more of a techy hacker archetype?
bandushrew 15y ago
I have dozens of faults. If I spent my time trying to change them all I would have very little time to spend on my actual life. ...and my actual life takes up a lot of time... As adults, I think its pretty mature to accept ourselves the way we are, and move on without wasting time agonizing over our many imperfections. Faulty or not, I still have stuff I need to do.
- pyre 15y ago
  Working towards a positive outcome doesn't always mean changing oneself. It can mean recognizing potential situations and avoiding them. For example, if you get really cranky when you haven't eaten in a while, you can always make sure to have some food with you (food bar, energy bars) or realize that skipping meals is a bad idea, etc.
  - bandushrew 15y ago
    That is perfectly true, but an entirely different point to the one the grand parent was making.
Daniel_Newby 15y ago
not even attempt to change one's behavior in a positive manner No visible progress != not even attempt.

araneae 15y ago

Not if it's a fault that can't be changed, or at least not easily. I'm short, too, and I've learned to accept that, just as I've learned to accept the fact that some of my friends have more people posting "happy birthday" on their wall than I do.

ulisesroche 15y ago
But, I don't think it's the same thing. Changing your behavior is very possible, and being short is not a fault.
sukuriant 15y ago
Plenty of your comments on here have a polite air to them. Looks like you can be cordial with people very frequently.
jff 15y ago
Can't be changed? Are you sure you aren't making up excuses for yourself? If you didn't believe people skills were innate and unlearnable, would you have to face the fact that you may be simply lazy in that regard, or that you're clinging to an unfriendly personality because you feel it makes you more of a techy hacker archetype?

bandushrew 15y ago

I have dozens of faults. If I spent my time trying to change them all I would have very little time to spend on my actual life. ...and my actual life takes up a lot of time... As adults, I think its pretty mature to accept ourselves the way we are, and move on without wasting time agonizing over our many imperfections. Faulty or not, I still have stuff I need to do.

pyre 15y ago
Working towards a positive outcome doesn't always mean changing oneself. It can mean recognizing potential situations and avoiding them. For example, if you get really cranky when you haven't eaten in a while, you can always make sure to have some food with you (food bar, energy bars) or realize that skipping meals is a bad idea, etc.
- bandushrew 15y ago
  That is perfectly true, but an entirely different point to the one the grand parent was making.

Daniel_Newby 15y ago

not even attempt to change one's behavior in a positive manner No visible progress != not even attempt.