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It sounds like learning to set some boundaries and thinking about what you really want out of work would benefit you. You are the go to guy because you acted ou

It sounds like learning to set some boundaries and thinking about what you really want out of work would benefit you. You are the go to guy because you acted out that role enough so that it became real. If you want to be needed at work, then great! Keep doing that. But if you resent being the go to guy on a regular basis, start by changing that which is easiest to change: your own behavior. Easy way out here: schedule something after the typical end of the workday, even if it’s meeting friends at a bar.

nikau 5y ago
I don't understand this line of thinking like a teenager in some drama series - its business and you have contract to get paid for a set number of hours a day. Either the company compensates you for working overtime and you want to do extra hours, or you say no and they can hire more staff or descope features. There's no need to be scheduling events for excuses, just say no, its none of their business why you say no and you will get more respect by having boundaries. From my experience management see people who go above and beyond as compliant suckers and will lowball them on compensation and bonuses.
arp242 5y ago
I was working slightly above minimum wage in a shop, and before that as a complete minimum wage worker in a warehouse. Now, almost 15 years later working as a fairly well paid software dev, yes, I would (and am) more assertive. In that kind of position; the dynamics can be rather different; it's not the kind of dynamics where you can "just" push back to your manager (depending on the person, not even gently) and losing your job is a big deal since you don't have a lot of financial reserves. I was actually fired for declining some night shifts at a different job once; and that was actually because I had obligations as a scout leader. These people were right assholes though for this and various other reasons (but I did manage to hack the barcode scanning machine there so I could program some toy programs on that when there was nothing to do during the night, hah!) This is probably some context I should have added to my previous post. > Easy way out here: schedule something after the typical end of the workday, even if it’s meeting friends at a bar. So becoming alcoholic is the solution? haha

nikau 5y ago

I don't understand this line of thinking like a teenager in some drama series - its business and you have contract to get paid for a set number of hours a day. Either the company compensates you for working overtime and you want to do extra hours, or you say no and they can hire more staff or descope features. There's no need to be scheduling events for excuses, just say no, its none of their business why you say no and you will get more respect by having boundaries. From my experience management see people who go above and beyond as compliant suckers and will lowball them on compensation and bonuses.

arp242 5y ago

I was working slightly above minimum wage in a shop, and before that as a complete minimum wage worker in a warehouse. Now, almost 15 years later working as a fairly well paid software dev, yes, I would (and am) more assertive. In that kind of position; the dynamics can be rather different; it's not the kind of dynamics where you can "just" push back to your manager (depending on the person, not even gently) and losing your job is a big deal since you don't have a lot of financial reserves. I was actually fired for declining some night shifts at a different job once; and that was actually because I had obligations as a scout leader. These people were right assholes though for this and various other reasons (but I did manage to hack the barcode scanning machine there so I could program some toy programs on that when there was nothing to do during the night, hah!) This is probably some context I should have added to my previous post. > Easy way out here: schedule something after the typical end of the workday, even if it’s meeting friends at a bar. So becoming alcoholic is the solution? haha