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> and it's STILL super hard to raise a child It's super hard because you want your child to have a better life than you, and from the get go. Parents nowadays
by GDC7 5y ago
> and it's STILL super hard to raise a child
It's super hard because you want your child to have a better life than you, and from the get go.
Parents nowadays want the trajectory of their child to be transposed upwards from the get go, and then be an up& to the right chart for their whole life.
This was never the case in human history, people never really put much thought into reproduction, matter of fact people never really put much thought into anything.
Very little time to wonder and price odds when you gotta go out and hunt to keep yourself alive.
People aren't having children because they think too much about outcomes for themselves, for their potential children and so forth.
Nature wanted reproduction to be impulsive, the whole planning for is humans shooting themselves in the foot.
- martindbp 5y agoI agree on the planning part, but I think the difficulty of raising a child is not only due to parents putting in more effort, although it's certainly a big part. Personally, we try to not put high expectations on our son, we don't have or plan on tons of extracurricular activities etc, but the first few years of their life is super hard anyway because of the constant sleep deprivation, the stress from having to perform at work despite this, and next to no free time for yourself or your relationship to your spouse. I think the reason it's harder now is mainly because both parents are expected to (and need to) work, and there's little support from the "village", because there is no village anymore. Grandparents live far away, kids don't just hang out in droves while one parent keeps an eye out through the kitchen window etc. There are so many factors that make parenting really time and energy consuming.