I have two thoughts here. You seem to imply that having many many shallow friends is normal... but it's not necessarily the case. I think it's totally normal t

I have two thoughts here. You seem to imply that having many many shallow friends is normal... but it's not necessarily the case. I think it's totally normal to have one or two close friends and then other more distant ones that are constantly coming and going. Personally, yes adulthood changes things. Obviously, we're working and such. But, you also get to have way more fun as an adult than you could as a child. > families I don't understand why so many people find having kids an obstacle to making friends. If anything, my children have dramatically expanded my social network, since I'm now friends with their playmates parents. Here's the second thought: I'm not sure I fully agree with the campfire model. If anything, my adult friendships are deeper and much better, and more 'involved', in that, I can call, text, interact, etc, with my friends while working via my phone, which we weren't allowed to do in grade school. Also, since we're all adults with full lives, families, etc, the friendship is about more than just 'hey we both like <blah>', it's also about navigating through such a full life, whereas childhood friendships were about childish things.