If you're looking for resilient, growth-minded friends, I'd recommend taking up a class where everyone is guaranteed to look bad in the beginning. Only those th

If you're looking for resilient, growth-minded friends, I'd recommend taking up a class where everyone is guaranteed to look bad in the beginning. Only those that can get through the rough waters in the beginning will make it to the "shore" of basic competence. It can be a great filter. I realized this when trying to learn Salsa dancing. Some people have a natural talent, but most don't and that includes me. It was one of the most difficult things for me to learn and it took months of very very bad dancing to get to a passable level. As a guy, it can be tough post-college to make other good male friends, but I look back at all my male friends now and they are almost all from Salsa. There's a real camaraderie that comes from passing through a challenge together and making it to the other side. Sure - it's not a Navy Seal experience or something that intense, but the fear of social humiliation is a strong one and if you can get through that with some other solid people, it builds a real bond.