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This resonates pretty well with me, re: asking questions I noticed in classes that people were afraid to ask questions, and when they did, everyone else was ha
by legohead 5y ago
This resonates pretty well with me, re: asking questions
I noticed in classes that people were afraid to ask questions, and when they did, everyone else was happy they did so since we all had the same question in mind, usually. So at some point I decided I'm just going to ask any question that pops into my head and stop caring what others think.
It worked out great, but now that I'm married, it annoys my wife to no end, especially with an engineer mindset. Like the old joke "go to the store and get milk, if there are eggs, get a dozen", and the husband brings home a dozen milks. I ask these seemingly subtle, stupid, clarifying questions all the time (ie: "a dozen eggs, right?"), and it makes my wife angry -- still after 10 years of marriage.
- bityard 5y agoHah! I can relate. My wife and I have conversations like this all the time. I've been trained to take an engineering mindset towards things because, frankly, it's how I earn a living and rarely lets me down. Earlier in our marriage, she would make a vague request or statement as a prompt for me to do something. Instead of asking for clarification, I would do what I _guessed_ she wanted. And I would often get it wrong and be met with the response of, "You knew what I meant!" No, clearly I didn't, or I wouldn't have done the wrong thing. These days she is getting better at being clearer about her needs and I am (maybe?) getting more diligent about asking for clarification.