I have a life long friend I regularly talk about career advancement with, we have for almost twenty years. We know what each other make. He’s honestly like a br

I have a life long friend I regularly talk about career advancement with, we have for almost twenty years. We know what each other make. He’s honestly like a brother to me. Other than that, it’s only served in my experience to get people asking me for money. In my early 20s, I used to have my parents help me with my taxes. That lead to them regularly pressuring me for money, and being very new to the industry I made a fraction of what I make now. They have no idea what I make now, and I have in recent years put on a bit of a song and dance about how I’m always broke to get them to ask less. A while ago I dated another engineer at my company and at one point I shared what I was making with her. She got very upset. It was a decent chunk more than her, but I had ten years more experience than her. I made a fraction what she was making at her experience level, it seemed more than reasonable to me. She made a fuss about it to HR, it was a mess. Generally I think nothing good comes from sharing your pay. I would avoid it.