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What if you knew that the difference could be e.g 5x or 10x? Wouldn't you be worried that it could affect that friendship?

craterjens 5y ago
5x or 10x is such huge differences that I think we'd already have vastly different lifestyles that putting a number on income wouldn't make a difference. I see the problem you're getting at but I think multiples in the 1.5x to 3x is more sensitive if you and your friend/colleague is in similar industries or not that close/shallow friends.
stedman15 5y ago
Not at all. It's simply a data point. One that could greatly improve your economic circumstances if used correctly.
muzani 5y ago
Everyone calls bullshit on the salary, lol. Especially when they compare it to something like PayScale median salaries. I think you just expect to be called a liar and move on. The other common reaction is that "highly paid jobs are stressful". But my job certainly isn't as stressful as many other jobs, and the pandemic has proven that tech jobs are resilient. I think it triggers a kind of existential crisis in a few people. I've been a little surprised at how much we get paid over smaller entrepreneurs and consultants too. I had a friend who was very convinced of the ESBI Quadrant until I told him my salary.
readingnews 5y ago
I think that questions is interesting because... If you are standing in front of someone who makes 5x or 10x what you do, or vice-versa, you probably know it. I know a group of doctors/lawyers who each make 100X what I do. Literally, they are like super rich with investments and properties and the like. Under all normal circumstances, we would not meet up at a party, or be hanging out in the same "store" for example. My point is, normally, people that make that much more or less than you typically do not dwell in your social circles. None of them would ask me what I make. I would never ask them what they make.

craterjens 5y ago

5x or 10x is such huge differences that I think we'd already have vastly different lifestyles that putting a number on income wouldn't make a difference. I see the problem you're getting at but I think multiples in the 1.5x to 3x is more sensitive if you and your friend/colleague is in similar industries or not that close/shallow friends.

stedman15 5y ago

Not at all. It's simply a data point. One that could greatly improve your economic circumstances if used correctly.

muzani 5y ago

Everyone calls bullshit on the salary, lol. Especially when they compare it to something like PayScale median salaries. I think you just expect to be called a liar and move on. The other common reaction is that "highly paid jobs are stressful". But my job certainly isn't as stressful as many other jobs, and the pandemic has proven that tech jobs are resilient. I think it triggers a kind of existential crisis in a few people. I've been a little surprised at how much we get paid over smaller entrepreneurs and consultants too. I had a friend who was very convinced of the ESBI Quadrant until I told him my salary.

readingnews 5y ago

I think that questions is interesting because... If you are standing in front of someone who makes 5x or 10x what you do, or vice-versa, you probably know it. I know a group of doctors/lawyers who each make 100X what I do. Literally, they are like super rich with investments and properties and the like. Under all normal circumstances, we would not meet up at a party, or be hanging out in the same "store" for example. My point is, normally, people that make that much more or less than you typically do not dwell in your social circles. None of them would ask me what I make. I would never ask them what they make.