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As a man, every condescending comment you get in person only tells you one thing: your deadlift PR is still too low. Get jacked and all these problems disappea
by blfr 5y ago
As a man, every condescending comment you get in person only tells you one thing: your deadlift PR is still too low.
Get jacked and all these problems disappear. No matter how silly your questions and objections, no matter how dumb they may think you are, all your concerns will be treated very seriously, criticism couched in most polite terms, and weird stuff written off as eccentric.
(It helps to be taller, well-dressed, and sound sophisticated but solid deadlift is by far the most effective.)
- joeberon 5y agoAre these seriously the quality of comments we are happy with on Hackernews these days?
- blfr 5y agoIt's a social reality most nerds ignore at their own peril. The way you're treated is very loosely correlated with being smart, having unusual tastes, or asking questions but tightly with how you present yourself.
- joeberon 5y ago"at their own peril"? It's really not a big deal lol
- blfr 5y agoBeing treated poorly compounds, just like the fear of looking stupid. Especially in the dating market.
- joeberon 5y agoYou sound like an incel. Anyone who cares about this stuff is already weak.
- sidlls 5y agoAttractive people generally illicit more empathy and cooperation in work settings, and are generally more successful in their careers, than those of average or below average physical appearance. It's not the mark of an "incel" to take note and think this is important.
- joeberon 5y agoYes it is
- wccrawford 5y agoThere's an unfortunate amount of truth in it. I noticed a marked difference in how I was treated and respected when I gained weight. When I was skinny, I was pushed around and ignored. When I gained weight, suddenly people were wary of me and much more likely to accept my input or requirements. I didn't even exercise. I merely gained weight.
- sidlls 5y agoI've spent the majority of my career having plenty of my own ideas, thoughts, and opinions ignored only to see them seriously considered when echoed by taller, fitter, and more attractive male peers. Software engineers and computer scientists like to think they're above this stuff, but they aren't.
- dtjb 5y agoI can't think of a single politician, CEO, professor, author or esteemed leader where this holds true. If anything, I think the meathead/jock/gymrat stereotype is more pervasive.
- dymk 5y agoI interpreted GP as saying being jacked is a sufficient, but not necessary, condition to people not condescending you And sure they might think you’re a meathead, but they sure won’t tell you that.
- RedBeetDeadpool 5y agoSounds like great advice! Why should I listen to guys like Dan Abramov when I can listen to you? In all seriousness though, this comment almost sounds like its from another language when read here on HN. Its crazy how completely wierd some parts of the internet has become.
- ZephyrBlu 5y agoDan Abramov has something greater than muscle: status. What a random guy says about being heard is probably going to be more useful than what Dan says because it's not confounded by having high status.
- ZephyrBlu 5y agoIt's amusing to see people get worked up over this. I'm not even jacked, but it's obvious that having a lot of muscle mass makes you look more intimidating and dominant.