I think OP is referring to this: > For example, if a date thinks I'm stupid because I ask them what a word means, so much so that they show it in their facial

I think OP is referring to this: > For example, if a date thinks I'm stupid because I ask them what a word means, so much so that they show it in their facial expression and/or tone of voice, I think it's pretty unlikely that we're compatible, so I view finding that out sooner rather than later as upside and not downside.