How does one define fair? Is it fair to give each person the same level of material and expectations? Is it fair to help each person where they are at do the

How does one define fair? Is it fair to give each person the same level of material and expectations? Is it fair to help each person where they are at do the best they can at what they want to or are most capable of going after? These are mutually exclusive. What is fair, who gets to decide, and why? We need to have conversations about this in depth.