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The message is written at the end of the post: > The lesson that I walked away with was to listen to that pain, no matter how irrational it may seem in the mom
by cole-k 5y ago
The message is written at the end of the post:
> The lesson that I walked away with was to listen to that pain, no matter how irrational it may seem in the moment... I’ve been learning to listen and to trust my emotions in less desperate situations in the years since the YC interview.
I do not think the author is claiming you should shout about your niece in a YC interview. They told a pretty interesting anecdote and gave the insight they gained from it.
Not to be rude but your comment seems kind of like it should just be a downvote (or I suppose a withheld upvote).
- cheschire 5y agoI tend to find when someone starts a sentence with "not to be rude" or "with all due respect" or "I don't disagree", this person's subconscious is telling them "hey don't say this thing you're about to say because..." And then the person just tells their subconscious to take a back seat and prefaces their statement with a dismissive phrase.
- cole-k 5y agoThere has to be some irony in you writing a passive aggressive reply over me adding in "not to be rude" in an attempt to not sound passive aggressive myself. Maybe the irony is in me taking the bait and writing a passive aggressive reply to your passive aggressive reply.
- nuclearnice3 5y agohow did you come to believe in this theory?
- dotancohen 5y ago> how did you come to believe in this theory? Eliza bot?
- nuclearnice3 5y agoHeh. Just curious about the origin of this pretty detailed knowledge about other people's subconscious thoughts...
- maroonblazer 5y agoIt could also mean: "I'm struggling to find the right words, and the only ones I've found don't reflect the note I'm trying to sound."
- brewdad 5y agoFor me, anytime I've used any variation of "with...respect" it stands in as a polite substitute for "Fuck You" just before I tell them exactly why they are full of shit. That's just me though.
- dotancohen 5y agoI'm sure that you didn't mean to be rude, but you came off that way. That's fine, I also have a hard time articulating a balance between tone and content. That's why I tend to preface comments that may be perceived as rude with a statement that it is not my intention.
- notriddle 5y agoThe problem is that so many people use that phrase who actually do intend to be rude, so it has lost all meaning. There’s no point in using it any more.
- dotancohen 5y agoAll right, that is a valid point.
- egypturnash 5y agoI always read “with all due respect” as “I totally disagree but I also feel you are incredibly wrong, and would like to raise this in a way that gets us to detach our egos from our positions so we can dig into this”. It does not always work to do this, mind you.