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This was a fantastic read; thank you for sharing. I saw escorts for a couple of years. It was often weird, when I just didn’t click with the woman, but I met

This was a fantastic read; thank you for sharing. I saw escorts for a couple of years. It was often weird, when I just didn’t click with the woman, but I met a few really awesome people. There are other down sides to escorting. One of the women I had seen a couple of times, was later murdered. They ended up catching the killer- another escort, I don’t know why. It was hard to grieve; we were not real close; her family probably didn’t want clients showing up at the funeral or any other reminder like flowers. I ended up falling in love with one of the women I met and we dated for a while. It was a serious emotional roller coaster being in love with someone who was having sex with other men until she was ready to “go exclusive”. But in the end we got married after she retired. Now it’s ten years later. We have a son and are still happy as can be. If you’re thinking about seeing escorts, remember that since intimacy with other people is involved, there are often strong emotions as well.

mikevm 5y ago
> If you’re thinking about seeing escorts If you're thinking about seeing escorts, you better talk to your close male friends so they can talk you out of it. Work on yourself, and start asking normal women out. Yes, I know that's "scary" but that's how your parents met... (unless your mother is a whore!) There's a saying which was borne out of experience - "once a whore, always a whore". I actually know of one such case personally. Basically, once a woman tries out whoring and sees the amount of money she can make, any other job where you actually have to put in the effort pales in comparison. So when times get rough, she will go back to whoring. I don't blame them, $200+/hr beats most skilled jobs out there and all you have to do is fake being nice and spread your legs. I don't get the so called "progressive" people here that are cheering for this kind of self-degradation and dress it up as pity for the poor "oppressed" woman. Leftists will never "blame the victim", it's always some externality that is to blame for a person's woes. Where is personal responsibility? Where is dignity? Making an effort to earn an honest living? As one commenter here said: "If a woman is poor, struggling to survive or trying to give a child a decent life in a society and economic system that is very sink or swim ...". Why are we are supposed to respect her choice? Why is she even a single-mom in the first place? What about all the other poor women who work 2 jobs? Are they just suckers? Is the poor woman working 2 jobs making a morally equivalent choice as the poor woman who becomes a whore? I don't think so. I've also seen weird analogies claiming that whoring (renting out your body for money) is just like physical labor, which is fscking insane. How is being sexually penetrated by a stranger, ejaculated on, etc... anything like a man doing manual labor? This kind of abstraction does away with the actual differences on purpose - it's nothing more than a rhetorical trick.
- beckman466 5y ago
  > "once a whore, always a whore" > Basically, once a woman tries out whoring > weird analogies claiming that whoring (renting out your body for money) is just like physical labor, which is fscking insane. > How is being sexually penetrated by a stranger, ejaculated on, etc... anything like a man doing manual labor? well we've found our misogynist > Why is she even a single-mom in the first place? right, because women have bodily autonomy and basic health care services available to them everywhere. yes i am talking about abortion seriously, why the hell share this disgusting tirade? edit: wow i see this isn't your only misogynistic comment > At least a woman can take the easy way out and become a prostitute. A man has no such "luxury". Society does not pity weak men the way it pities weak women. [1] [1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28928183 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28928183
  - mikevm 5y ago
    > well we've found our misogynist Pointless name calling. > right, because women have bodily autonomy and basic health care services available to them everywhere. yes i am talking about abortion You already have bodily autonomy, you can a) make sure you use a condom or better yet, an IUD b) refrain from sex unless you are OK with getting pregnant. Every time I see an argument about abortion, pro-choice advocates choose to emphasize the choice aspect of having an abortion but completely ignore the choice aspect of having sex in the first place. Maybe it is not clear to some people that sex is first and foremost a means of reproduction, and not just pleasure?
    - beckman466 5y ago
      > Pointless name calling. you realize you are the one referring to women who do sex work as 'whores'.... > You already have bodily autonomy, you can a) make sure you use a condom or better yet, an IUD b) refrain from sex unless you are OK with getting pregnant. again showing your misogynist colors; where is male contraception? where is the vasectomy in your list of recommendations/strategies? > ignore the choice aspect of having sex in the first place. seriously, you are digging such a deep hole here > Maybe it is not clear to some people that sex is first and foremost a means of reproduction, and not just pleasure? um what?
boppo1 5y ago
Out of curiosity, about how much do you make/ did you when you started seeing escorts?

mikevm 5y ago

> If you’re thinking about seeing escorts If you're thinking about seeing escorts, you better talk to your close male friends so they can talk you out of it. Work on yourself, and start asking normal women out. Yes, I know that's "scary" but that's how your parents met... (unless your mother is a whore!) There's a saying which was borne out of experience - "once a whore, always a whore". I actually know of one such case personally. Basically, once a woman tries out whoring and sees the amount of money she can make, any other job where you actually have to put in the effort pales in comparison. So when times get rough, she will go back to whoring. I don't blame them, $200+/hr beats most skilled jobs out there and all you have to do is fake being nice and spread your legs. I don't get the so called "progressive" people here that are cheering for this kind of self-degradation and dress it up as pity for the poor "oppressed" woman. Leftists will never "blame the victim", it's always some externality that is to blame for a person's woes. Where is personal responsibility? Where is dignity? Making an effort to earn an honest living? As one commenter here said: "If a woman is poor, struggling to survive or trying to give a child a decent life in a society and economic system that is very sink or swim ...". Why are we are supposed to respect her choice? Why is she even a single-mom in the first place? What about all the other poor women who work 2 jobs? Are they just suckers? Is the poor woman working 2 jobs making a morally equivalent choice as the poor woman who becomes a whore? I don't think so. I've also seen weird analogies claiming that whoring (renting out your body for money) is just like physical labor, which is fscking insane. How is being sexually penetrated by a stranger, ejaculated on, etc... anything like a man doing manual labor? This kind of abstraction does away with the actual differences on purpose - it's nothing more than a rhetorical trick.

beckman466 5y ago
> "once a whore, always a whore" > Basically, once a woman tries out whoring > weird analogies claiming that whoring (renting out your body for money) is just like physical labor, which is fscking insane. > How is being sexually penetrated by a stranger, ejaculated on, etc... anything like a man doing manual labor? well we've found our misogynist > Why is she even a single-mom in the first place? right, because women have bodily autonomy and basic health care services available to them everywhere. yes i am talking about abortion seriously, why the hell share this disgusting tirade? edit: wow i see this isn't your only misogynistic comment > At least a woman can take the easy way out and become a prostitute. A man has no such "luxury". Society does not pity weak men the way it pities weak women. [1] [1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28928183 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=28928183
- mikevm 5y ago
  > well we've found our misogynist Pointless name calling. > right, because women have bodily autonomy and basic health care services available to them everywhere. yes i am talking about abortion You already have bodily autonomy, you can a) make sure you use a condom or better yet, an IUD b) refrain from sex unless you are OK with getting pregnant. Every time I see an argument about abortion, pro-choice advocates choose to emphasize the choice aspect of having an abortion but completely ignore the choice aspect of having sex in the first place. Maybe it is not clear to some people that sex is first and foremost a means of reproduction, and not just pleasure?
  - beckman466 5y ago
    > Pointless name calling. you realize you are the one referring to women who do sex work as 'whores'.... > You already have bodily autonomy, you can a) make sure you use a condom or better yet, an IUD b) refrain from sex unless you are OK with getting pregnant. again showing your misogynist colors; where is male contraception? where is the vasectomy in your list of recommendations/strategies? > ignore the choice aspect of having sex in the first place. seriously, you are digging such a deep hole here > Maybe it is not clear to some people that sex is first and foremost a means of reproduction, and not just pleasure? um what?

boppo1 5y ago

Out of curiosity, about how much do you make/ did you when you started seeing escorts?